feeling adrift?

What follows is a three step process designed to help you focus, so you can improve your personal narrative.

The first step is acceptance. Which basically means, get the facts. Because the sooner you stop wishing things were different than they actually are and simply accept what’s right in front of you, the sooner you will begin to trust yourself to develop a new set of facts over which you have more control.

Let’s say you’re in a job or a relationship that doesn’t fit you. To accept this fact might mean that you need to make some changes. And hey. Even if your current job or relationship isn’t all that great, at least you have it. I get that. Change is uncomfortable. 

Here’s what you can expect during our work together: Accepting the facts will be hard at first. You will resist saying what is actually going on, because even if you don’t like your current situation, it has its comforts. But strangely, as you do begin to list the facts, you will feel a little better. And then a little better still. And then, pretty awesome! Why? Because the truth will set you free. (And no, I’m not religious, but there is something universally freeing about speaking your truth.)

You could start right now. Would like to tell me a few facts about your situation? If so, I will write back with some suggestions about next steps.

This is the heart of the process. To build is to say out loud what we most deeply want. Once you have some facts in hand, you can begin to say what you truly want, and trust that it’s not just pie in the sky. Why? Because you will be dreaming with your feet on the ground. Too often, we either dream impossible dreams or don’t dream at all. With the foundation of facts under us, you can begin to build what you want, and trust that you can achieve it.

Here’s what you can expect from our work together: At first, you will feel stress. You might think, “I don’t know what I want! My dreams will never come true anyway.” But you might be surprised. When you bring your dreams alongside the structure of the facts, your focus will become clear, perhaps for the first time. You will see the possibilities because the power of limits actually opens up our creative brain to press against those limits.

Do you have any questions about anything you’ve read so far? Feel free to leave me a message, and I will be in touch with you soon.

This is where the rubber meets the road. In this third step, you will say what you’re actually going to do in light of the facts, and what you want. This may feel overwhelming at first. But with practice, you will get better at setting reasonable goals for yourself, and feeling good as you accomplish those goals. As you feel the overwhelm begin to leave your body, you might feel yourself wanting to stretch or yawn or laugh, as control begins to fill your veins again. It feels good! Because when you didn’t trust yourself, your sense of agency and choice suffered. And along with them, you suffered. But in the connect phase, you will begin to take control of your life again.

Expect to feel hopeful, perhaps for the first time in a long time, as your sense of control returns.

Would you like a quick call? Feel free to leave me a message, and I will be in touch with you soon.

Working with Mark has really helped me to get all of my creative brain with all its plans into really thinking about the next steps as to where I’d like to take it. No question is ever off the table when working with Mark! He’s really patient and offers amazing insight and takes you deeper into learning how to expand upon the areas in your life you’re looking to tackle. I would highly recommend Mark Newton Life Coaching.