You’re alone at the plate. The odds are stacked against you. People are watching to see what you will do. All of which affects your confidence.

Confidence happens in real time. If you are distracted by feeling alone, or the odds which are stacked against you, or the people watching, your focus will wobble and with it, your confidence. Our challenge is to get you to focus on what’s coming at you, how you will respond, and how to reach your peak performance.  

The sooner you stop wishing things were different and accept what’s right in front of you, the sooner your confidence will stabilize and begin to grow again. 

Building is the heart of the process. Once you have begun to accept the facts, you can begin to say what you truly want, and trust that it’s not just pie in the sky. You will find yourself surprisingly confident, even when what you are doing may be daunting. Too often, we either dream impossible dreams or don’t dream at all. With the foundation of facts under us, you can begin to build what you want, and trust that you can achieve it.

Here’s what you can expect from our work together: At first, you will feel stress. You might think, “I don’t know what I want! My dreams will never come true anyway.” But you might be surprised. When you bring your dreams alongside the structure of the facts, your focus will become clear, perhaps for the first time. You will see the possibilities because the power of limits actually opens up our creative brain to press against those limits.

This is where the rubber meets the road. In this third step, you will say what you’re actually going to do in light of the facts, and what you want. This may feel overwhelming at first. But with practice, you will get better at setting reasonable goals for yourself, and feeling good as you accomplish those goals. As you feel the overwhelm begin to leave your body, you might feel yourself wanting to stretch or yawn or laugh, as control begins to fill your veins again. It feels good! Because when you didn’t trust yourself, your sense of agency and choice suffered. And along with them, you suffered. But in the connect phase, you will begin to take control of your life again.

Expect to feel happy, perhaps for the first time in a long time, as your sense of control returns.

Working with Mark has really helped me to get all of my creative brain with all its plans into really thinking about the next steps as to where I’d like to take it. No question is ever off the table when working with Mark! He’s really patient and offers amazing insight and takes you deeper into learning how to expand upon the areas in your life you’re looking to tackle. I would highly recommend Mark Newton Life Coaching.