What gets you motivated?
What motivates you is basic to your happiness and success.
There are two basic modes that motivate men: pain or pleasure.
Which is more motivational for you?
Another way of putting this is, are you motivated by fear or goals?
Those who are motivated by fear are motivated more by what they are avoiding than what they are heading toward.
Those who are motivate by goals are motivated more by what they are heading toward than by what they are avoiding.
Real quick, let’s look at the premise for motivation.
The father of motivational theory was a guy named Abraham Maslow.
He came up with this thing called Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs.
Here is an image that captures his theory.
I found this image at the Brilliant Nurse website:
So you’ll notice right away that if you are more motivated by pain or fear, you’re lower on Maslow’s Hierarchy, more in the realm of “safety.”
While this method of motivation can work, it’s more primal — pretty low on the list.
For example, if you have this motivational style, you’re more likely to study for the exam because you don’t want to fail than because you actually want to learn the subject matter.
You’re avoiding the pain of failure.
On the other hand, if you are motivate by pleasure or goals, you’re motivated a higher lever, more in the “love/belonging” or “esteem” brackets in Maslow’s Hierarchy.
So, from the example above, if you have this motivational style, you’re more likely to study for the exam because you actually want to learn the subject matter.
Your heading toward the goal of learning.
In real life, most of us are somewhat motivated by both pain and pleasure.
But think about what motivates you.
The more of the mix you can attribute to pleasure, the higher the chances you will be both successful and happy.
If you would like to talk this over and take a look with an experienced men’s life and career coach, feel free to be in touch with me at firstname.lastname@example.org, or leave a comment below for all to share.
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