When you aren’t clear about who you are or what you bring to the table, people get confused — including you. So what’s going on here? Are you afraid to say who you are because if you do others will see you as a some kind of blowhard? If so, keep reading. Because here’s a way to be clear — without being a narcissist.

Who are you, anyway?

You don’t know, do you?

So you keep going out the door — a stranger to yourself.

Or worse —

You go out the door with a diminished view of yourself.

Which robs you and the world of what you could be bringing on your best day.

And then you wonder why you’re a bit depressed.

So —

Let’s get clear.

Henry David Thoreau said this in his famous work, Walden:

“The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation. What is called resignation is confirmed desperation.”

And yes, you can quell that desperation with all kinds of medications, from beer to porn.

Or, you can hole up in your own little cave.

But you won’t be happy if you spend all your time hiding.

You need a quest.

So — what’s your quest?

It’s time to stand up and take a stab at it.

Say who you are.

Try it on.

And don’t go small — say something big enough to grow into.

Because who you say you are has a great impact on who you are becoming.

Take a stab at it.

So watch the short video below.

It’s from the movie “Second Hand Lions.”

In it, a boy is staying with his uncles.

One of his uncles has told the boy some tall tales about his uncle “Hub,” but the boy isn’t sure if they are true.

In this scene, Hub confronts some young bullies, and says “Who he is.”

Note what he says, and think about what you would say about your own life.

What you would say about yourself does not have to reflect any of the elements of Hub’s account of who he is.

Your story is unique.

But try it out — who do you say you are?