The pressure is on, guys. Do you know what she really wants?
Because it’s at this moment each year that you realize:
1. Actually, I don’t know.
2. Honestly, I don’t care.
But just in case you do actually care and want to do something about it…
Here’s the ticket.
She wants you to listen to her and support her.
Ouch! Really?
Yes.
Oh, crap. You mean I can’t just give her a nice tea towel?
Nope.
Not even a nice piece of jewelry? What about that ski trip?
Those are nice! But what she really wants is…
She wants you to listen and respond.
Hmmm…
Which may be a lot more than you actually want to give. But just in case you’re interested: What she wants first and foremost is for you to listen to her and give credence to what she says. And we’re not just talking about nodding your head and saying, “Yes, dear.” We are talking about actually listening and responding to her in a way that not only shows that you heard her, but that confirms that you are willing and even committed to sharing in her concerns and plans. And taking action.
She wants your support.
And for that, you’re going to need some support yourself.
Because what she wants does not come naturally to you. What you want to do when you get home at the end of the day is put your feet up and rest from the rigors of the day. Which isn’t what she’s looking for. She’s worked hard today, too, and yet she still has a long list of things she wants to get done around the house. And she wants to talk about plans and how she can get help with her many aspirations.
Are you willing to do this? If so, she will love you forever. If not: Well, honestly it doesn’t matter what you give her. It won’t be what she really wants.
The takeaway:
Want to give your partner what she wants this holiday season? Get some support. It’s not going to be easy.