Lazy listening is hurting your relationship

Lazy listening is hurting your relationship

When you pretend to listen while your parter drones on and on, you’re just making things worse. Transform your lazy listening into a real conversation starting today! Your partner wants to be heard. You may think the reason your partner drones on and on is...
Stop texting your arguments

Stop texting your arguments

When you argue with your romantic partner by text, everyone loses. Text difficult emotions sparingly! And certainly stop texting your partner when you’re actually arguing. It usually doesn’t end well, does it? Texting is impersonal.  I meet with so many...
Finally, a war worth fighting

Finally, a war worth fighting

I hate war. It’s costly and most of the time, not worth fighting. But here is one war I can get behind. The War of Art Two authors, many centuries apart, wrote The Art of War, attributed to Sun-Tzu, in about the 5th century B.C., in China, and The War of Art, by...
Are you drifting, sifting, or gifting?

Are you drifting, sifting, or gifting?

Parents used to warn their children when a drifter came to town. Drifters seemed to congregate down by the railroad tracks. Today, drifters seem to be everywhere. You may be a drifter yourself, moving from one thing to another without a clear purpose or overall plan....
Why is it so hard to change a habit?

Why is it so hard to change a habit?

You want to change a habit. But so far, you haven’t been able to make significant change, even though you’ve listened to the podcasts and the audio books. Why not? Center your actions in want, not should. I talk with men every day who want to change their...
Write it. Read it. Do it.

Write it. Read it. Do it.

You’ve heard the old saying: “If you can see it, you can do it.” Writing helps you see what’s in your head. So write it — and do it. Just 5 minutes. In just 5 minutes, you can write a lot. Try it. Pull out a wafer-sliced piece of tree...