master the balance, lazy listening

When you pretend to listen while your parter drones on and on, you’re just making things worse. Transform your lazy listening into a real conversation starting today!

Your partner wants to be heard.

You may think the reason your partner drones on and on is because they don’t care about you. But consider this: maybe they keep talking because they don’t feel heard. So while you sit there passively, pretending to listen as what you’re actually thinking is, “Is this person still actually talking? It’s been 25 minutes of non-stop blah blah blah,” ask yourself: “Am I actually listening?”

 

You want to be heard.

We all want to be heard and understood. The elephant in living rooms across the world is a single, simple problem: “I want to be known. I want someone to know me and care about me.” And how can I know that I am known and cared about unless someone takes the most precious resource in the world — time — and devotes some of their time to actually listen and understand me?”

Start a real conversation today!

A real conversation is one in which everyone is actively engaged in listening and conversing. One of the great travesties is that we don’t learn to converse well. Just think how the world would be different if, along with Algebra, we all had to take classes in Conversation? If we were taught the best ways to engage actively in what is perhaps the most important skill in human relationships? If we were tested, and required to pass the class before we could graduate to the next level of humanity?

Start now. Make time now to begin the process of actively engaging with your conversation partners.

I can teach you the art of conversation. I can help you listen, and also speak up.

Please listen to this short talk, and then come right back for today’s Takeaway.

The takeaway:

Starting today:

  • Stop your lazy listening!
  • Start actively participating in conversations.
  • Keep pursuing understanding. It’s not selfish. It’s human!

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I can help you engage in active conversations.

And you have a couple of options for your next step. You could contact me and describe what you're going through. And I'll be in touch with suggestions. Or you can book a free session to make a time to get together and talk it over in person. Either way, I'm here to help you focusovercome resistance, and get moving again.