Why is it so hard to connect?

It’s lonely out there. Hard to make deep connections with others that resonate. Why is it so hard to connect, and what can you do?

Start here.

It’s an inside job. You know this, but sometimes we forget. If you’re not right with yourself, it becomes more difficult to connect with others.

For example: If you’re not getting enough exercise, you don’t feel right in your body. You keep pinching that inch. Or if you’re not challenging your brain enough (or too much), you get out of balance mentally. Or you may be concerned with where to draw the line when things going on around you aren’t right, presenting you with a moral  dilemma.

Address the mess. Face up to it: there is something untidy in your life that needs to be addressed; something that is keeping you from feeling good in your own skin. And the longer you run away from the problem, the more energy it drains from you, and the more difficult it is to connect with others.

Free your mind.

Long story short: when you’re disconnected from yourself, it’s difficult to get close to others.

In a moment, if you like, you can listen to a short talk by Marisa Peer about how to better reconnect with your mind, so you are moving in better harmony with yourself. She will give you four points:

• Tell your brain what you want.

• Link success with pleasure.

• Use vivid images and words.

• Make the unfamiliar familiar

Nothing astonishing about those for points. In fact, you may find her and her method overly simplistic. Bombastic, even. But consider: how connected are you with your own mind? It is, after all, where our life begins and ends. We are the story we tell ourselves.

Ask yourself: when was the last time I intentionally connected with my own mind?

Consider this.

Please listen to this brief talk (about 15 minutes) by Marisa Peer. She may strike you as a little weird, but listen for her main points anyway. And then come right back for today’s takeaway.

The takeaway:

Connection begins with you. Consider reconnecting with the strength of your own mind as a starting place to connect with others. 

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I can help you reconnect with your own story.