Your life can be as easy as hitting that sweet spot just right. Here’s how to stop making your life so difficult.
What have you been practicing?
Remember that confidence comes with repetition. Which means you become confident at whatever you do over and over.
Here’s the hitch. Confidence isn’t always a good thing. You are just as likely to become confident of something you don’t want as something you do want.
Do what you want.
When you keep doing the things you don’t want to do, it’s like swinging wildly at your day with an uneven stroke. You’re wearing yourself out on stuff that makes you unhappy.
The underlying reason you do this is poor decision-making and lack of control. Instead of doing what you want to do, you fritter away your time doing what you don’t want to do or at least don’t really care about.
What do you want?
That’s the question. One of the reasons you don’t know the answer to this question is because you don’t spend enough time asking yourself the question:
“What do I want?”
There are many reasons for this. One reason is that you don’t want to seem like a narcissist. You may have known someone (or maybe know someone now) who was constantly fulfilling their own wants wantonly. And you made a contract with yourself not to be like that person.
You can do what you want without being a narcissist. To get started, ask the question, “What do I want?” and then find a way to do more of it. It’s not narcissistic to be confident about what you want, and to find a way of fitting more of what you want into your day. The word for this is smart.
It doesn’t take a lot.
10 minutes a day. Just ten minutes a day to stop and ask yourself what you want will make you more confident about what you want — and what you don’t want.
The best way is to write it down. Take out a piece of paper. Write down what you don’t want and what you do want, and then commit to spending another 20 minutes at least, doing that thing that makes you feel good some time today.
That’s just 30 minutes of your day, and can make a world of difference to improve your mental health and state of mind.
Stop making your life so difficult. Figure out what you want and do at least some of the good stuff every day.
Want more help?
I can help you make your life less difficult by doing some of what you want every day.
You have a couple of options for your next step. You could contact me and describe what you're going through. And I'll be in touch with suggestions. Or you can book a free session to make a time to get together and talk it over in person. Whatever you choose, I'm here to help you focus, overcome resistance, and get moving again.