How to get back up after a major disappointment

You’re unhappy with your performance. What can you do when disappointment threatens to derail you?

Get real.

Don’t sugar coat it. Before you can overcome your disappointment, you’ve got to address it, head on. Go down into the depths. It’s okay. It’s scary, but it’s okay. Here’s why: until you hit bottom, you won’t know where you stand. And where you stand when you are disappointed with your performance — as a man, as a partner, as a creative — is at the bottom of a dark well. It feels like there’s no way out of the hole you’ve dug for yourself. It’s deep and the walls are slick and slimy. That’s the way it feels, when you get real with your disappointment.

Get up.

Get up as soon as you can. The problem with a major setback is that it feels so overwhelming. You almost can’t imagine getting back up. It feels too big. Impossible, even. The challenge is to take one small step, rather than try to solve the whole thing with one grand leap.

One step. 

What one step could you take today to start getting out of the hole you’re in? While you’re thinking about that, please watch this short (about 18 minutes) talk by Colin O’Brady. He talks about how to take that first step after a major setback, and how that strategy may lead to your best performance ever.

Key Point

After a major setback, get back up and into the game — one step at a time. 

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