Find the lies, win the prize. Here’s how

You’ve been lying to yourself again. Which may feel better in the moment, but is terrible for you in the long run. So if what you want is to feel better, find the lies in your story — and get to work on the truth.

Why do you do it?

Let’s start with the obvious: your life sucks. Well, not really. It just feels that way at the moment. But even as soon as you say that or even think it, you realize that you’re lying. Because, in fact, you have very little to complain about: your life is pretty great. So why do you feel so bad?

Here’s why.

The reason you feel so bad is because you aren’t pressing hard enough. Which you already know — subconsciously. Because you know that if you really put your mind and your back into it, you would be doing something much more challenging. In other words: you’re not living up to your potential. And the result? It’s depressing. So you don’t think about it. Which means you don’t do anything about it. And what do you do instead? You make up a pack of lies to protect yourself. 

But how can I find the lies?

So. If you want to find the lies and turn this thing around, the first thing is to remember that you’re the story teller. That’s right. Every day, you create a fiction to live by. And the challenge is to tell a better story than the one you are currently telling. Create a better fiction. And when it comes to telling better fiction, here’s what Stephen King has to say:

“…the job of fiction is to find the truth inside the story’s web of lies, not to commit intellectual dishonesty in the hunt for the buck.” (Stephen King | On Writing)

So don’t wait: start today.

Quit kidding yourself. Stop playing it safe. And here’s how to start: think for a moment (yes, actually stop for a moment and think) about what kind of lies you might be telling yourself and others. Because there are two major categories, when it comes to lying. The first kind is to overestimate your abilities (posing). And the second kind is to underestimate your abilities (false humility). And here’s the challenge: and it’s simple — humility. Because remember that humility is just telling the truth; being honest about yourself. What do you love? What do you hate? Start there, and you will find yourself getting closer to the truth.

Here’s more.

If you’d like to dig a little deeper, here’s more on the subject, in this short compelling talk by Pamela Meyer, author of Lie Spotting.

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I can help you face the facts — so you can start telling a better, more compelling story today.

And you have a couple of options for your next step. You could contact me and describe what you’re going through. And I’ll be in touch with suggestions. Or you can book a free session to make a time to get together and talk it over in person. Either way, I’m here to help you focus, overcome resistance, and get moving again.