Instead of busting a gut from all that frustration, channel your energy more productively. Here’s how.
First, call it what it is.
Frustration is just a nice way of saying you’re angry. When you call it frustration, you dampen your ability to face this real feeling head on.
So the next time you catch yourself saying “I’m frustrated,” try this instead: “I’m mad.”
Chances are, there is a good reason for your anger. As you sort through why you’re mad, remember: anger is the flip-side of fear.
What are you afraid of? Let’s say you’re mad at your boss. As you dig deeper into your “frustration,” look for the fear behind your anger.
For example: your boss ignores you or treats you poorly. Naturally, you’re upset. Part of your upset might be that you are afraid of not being valued highly enough by your boss to keep your job when the next layoffs occur.
Tell your version.
Remember: it’s your life. A major reason you get frustrated is because you listen to someone else’s version of who you are and what you should be doing.
Nip it in the bud. When someone starts telling your story, keep in mind that what they say is only their version of your story. And remember: only you know the fullness of your own life.
Tell your own story. Step up and fill the void with your own strong voice. Tell it like it is.
What is your story, anyway? Who are the main characters? What are the main events? Where is this story going?
If you will invest some time into actually thinking about and telling your own story, you will find yourself becoming less frustrated. Why? Because once you have a clear personal narrative, you will be better equipped to respond to the way others treat you and talk about you. Plus, you will be better prepared to make the best decisions about what you want, and where your story is going.
Invest time in forming and telling your own story. You will find yourself less frustrated and more engaged with your own life.
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