How to start trusting yourself again

You don’t trust yourself. You might call it low self-esteem or lack of confidence. Here’s how to start trusting yourself again.

What is trust?

Trust means I can count on you. Think of how you trust or mistrust someone else. I trust you if you do what you say you’re going to do. I don’t trust you if you say one thing and do another. It’s pretty simple, really.

Can I trust you?

Notice that trust is centered in relationship. There are always at least two personalities in a relationship in order for trust to be a topic of concern.

There are two of you.

Stay with me now. In order for you to trust yourself, you need to realize that there are at least two of you. There is the intentional you and the accountable you. The intentional you has good intentions, and wants to get stuff done. The accountable you is the person who either actually follows through — or doesn’t.

The question:

Can you trust the accountable you to carry through with what the intentional you wants to do? If the answer is yes, then you will trust yourself. If the answer is no, then you will not trust yourself.

Why it matters.

If you’re going to get anything of value done, it’s going to take trust. Whether it’s a personal relationship or a professional relationship, everything works better when there’s trust. The opposite is also true: almost nothing of value happens when trust is low or non-existent.

Key point:

Trust is essential. Start with yourself.

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I can help you trust yourself.