You can’t get what you want ’til you know what you want. — Joe Jackson.
Let’s get to work finding out what you want.
This is making you miserable.
The problem is, there are way too many options out there. And you’re a creative guy. So take that combination: too many options + creative guy. And what do you come up with? Misery.
Sometimes you start feelin’ so lost and lonely…
This is the opening line to Joe Jackson’s song: (You Can’t Get What You Want (’til you know what you want).
The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation. What is called resignation is confirmed desperation. From the desperate city you go into the desperate country, and have to console yourself with the bravery of minks and muskrats. A stereotyped but unconscious despair is concealed even under what are called the games and amusements of mankind. There is no play in them, for this comes after work. But it is a characteristic of wisdom not to do desperate things.
And then, Joe Jackson can write these words back in 1984 and we still get what he means:
Sometimes you keep busy reaching out for something
You don’t care, there’s always something there
Sometimes you can’t see that all you need is one thing
If it’s right, you could sleep at night
And if it’s right, you could sleep at night.
So please do this.
What do you want?
Take a small step today.
Please take out a sheet of wafer-sliced tree (AKA a sheet of paper) or open a fresh document on your computer, and set the timer for 30 minutes and free write. Which means that you don’t pause to edit, you just write as much and as fast as you can. And your prompt for this brief writing exercise is: “What do I want?”
Want more help?
I can help you practice better emotional hygiene. And you have a couple of options for your next step. You could contact me and describe what you're going through. And I'll be in touch with suggestions. Or you can book a free session to make a time to get together and talk it over in person. Either way, I'm here to help you focus, overcome resistance, and get moving again.