What you expect affects everything. Here’s how to make your expectations work for you — instead of against you.
What you expect matters.
An expectation is a “strong belief that something will happen or be the case in the future,” a belief that someone will or should achieve something.
So — what are you expecting today? Because without an expectation you’re lost. Whereas with an expectation, you are a force to be reckoned with. So what will it be today? Because your first step is to get an expectation of some kind. And it can be a positive or a negative expectation. But for your own sake, don’t be neutral.
So don’t be neutral.
Because remember: it’s unnatural to be neutral. But for some reason, you’ve convinced yourself that when you’re neutral, you’re in a good place. A calm place. And at some level, you’re right. But you’re also wrong. Because when you’re neutral, what you’re actually doing is protecting yourself — putting up an unnatural boundary around yourself to protect yourself. And I get it. We all want to play it safe at some level. But when you do this, you’re not really living.
Grab an expectation today.
Which is what happens to Meursault – The protagonist and narrator of The Stranger, a (very) short novel by Albert Camus, who won the Nobel Prize for literature in 1957 for his commentary on the human condition. His character Meursault is a detached man who views and describes much of what occurs around him from a removed position. He is emotionally indifferent to others, including his mother and also his lover, Marie. And it doesn’t end well. So even if it seems difficult (which it can be), and even if you’d like to be that laid back guy you’ve been lately (but aren’t you getting bored?), get an expectation today. Because once you do, your story will get back into gear, and you’ll feel more alive. Because you will, in fact, be more alive.
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