Keep pushing the edges to enlarge your control over what you care about most.
This is not the time to be shy.
Yes: there are a whole lot of things beyone your control. But: if you focus on what you most care about and devote your time and energy to enlarging your proficiency and control over those areas, you will be amazed at how much better you feel.
Here’s the concept: Stephen Covey wrote a little book a few years back called The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. In that book, there are some diagrams which will help you. One of those diagrams is about being proactive. When you’re being proactive, you take your area of concern — what you care about most, and are charged with doing — and then you think to yourself: “What can I do to affect postive change upon that which I am most concerned about?”
What you end up with are two circles (like the one at the top of the page). The outside circle is your Circle of Concern. The inside circle is your Circle of Influence. What you want to do when you’re being proactive is to press with your Circle of Influence (what you are able to do) against that Circle of Concern. The closer those two circles are to one another, the happier you’ll be, because you will be affecting positive change in the areas that you care about most.
As opposed to this.
On the other hand, if you are being reactive (as oppsed to proactive) what you do is let your concerns overwhelm you and actually shrink your area of influence, leaving you feeling pretty puny.
This is not a happy place.
Actively do what you can about what you care about most, without waiting around.
Want more help?
I can help you intentionally enlarge your area of influence about what you care about most.
And you have a couple of options for your next step. You could contact me and describe what you’re going through. And I’ll be in touch with suggestions. Or you can book a free session to make a time to get together and talk it over in person. Either way, I’m here to help you focus, overcome resistance, and get moving again.